Playing With the Waves

Playing With the Waves

Have you played that game along the beach, when you couldn’t or didn’t wish to get wet?

You follow the surf as it recedes, as far as possibly, you ride its heels.

Then you run back, giddy and frantic, wonder if you tempted too far this time.

Everyone ever plays the same, we don’t stop until the tide has caught us.

This is the same rhythm upon men that women tempt our unrelenting hunt.




My answers – Next Level Really Super Harder Sex Questions

Next Level – My answers

Here is a link to these questions (without my answers) to copy and answer on your own blog: Your Sex Questions Set 10: Next Level

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Next Level

1. Can sex be great if it’s just physical, with no relationship (the other person is extremely attractive but random)?

For me, not really. There are different types of relationships and connections – it doesn’t have to be the significant other type, but there has to be a connection. That’s what frames everything, even the physical stuff. Otherwise you’re having sex with a sex doll. Now the reverse is more interesting. With a sexy enough connection, or naughty enough situation, I have found sexual interaction very hot with some that I wouldn’t have normally been attracted to.

2. Have you ever had an extra strong orgasm and lost control (way more than usually if you lose control often)? How were you different during such an orgasm?

My responses to orgasms are not as interesting or varied as those I’ve seen from women.

But once I remember I had to share a room with a girlfriend and her friend for a night. We were going to Florida for a wedding (one of my girlfriends friends was getting married), and for some reason it was significantly less expensive to fly half way, late at night, and fly the rest of the way the next morning; so, my girlfriend booked a room for her and I, and another friend of hers who was traveling with us.

The room had two beds – but it was tiny. There was no way that my girlfriend and I could have sex, or even stroke each other – the friend would have heard. So we barely touched – I put my fingers in her but it was very hard to move them around, or do anything without making a sound. My girl friend very softly stroked me, not moving her hand, just tiny little stokes with a few fingers. It seemed like she did this for a very long time, but it got me hard and inched me toward an orgasm – very, very, very slowly. I was on the edge for minutes, and she kept up with her little strokes, until finally I came like monster. I couldn’t make any noise, but I buckled and clinched. A tiny grunt got out I think.

3. Would you rather have an amazing orgasm yourself or give/watch the person you were having sex with an amazing orgasm (if it had to be one or the other)?

Give them one.

4. Have you ever been inappropriately propositioned by someone (someone who shouldn’t have been propositioning you)? Did you turn them down? Did you tell anybody? (if more that once, answer with the most scandalous or interesting.)

Tough one, I seem to be a magnet for inappropriate propositions.

The most scandalous involves a girlfriend’s mom, but that would need its own post – I can’t short-answer that one.

The next most inappropriate… damn that’s like a five way tie. I’ll mention two, that’s the best I can narrow it down.

1. A coworker asked me to fuck her after a Christmas party, two weeks before her wedding, while her husband-to-be was sleeping down the hall in their hotel room. I had hung out with, and befriended both of them, and did nothing to provoke it. Yes I turned her down, and I didn’t tell anybody.

2. A good friend of my ex-girlfriend, who was also married, propositioned me at a New Year’s eave party. We were outside and her husband and my girlfriend were inside. She felt me out and we kissed. She asked me to fuck her (more like told) and I refused. I never told anybody, but she was really cold to me after that.

5. What is something that you like to watch, read or think about when you masturbate, that would embarrass you to say?

I don’t watch any porn that I’m embarrassed about – female solo type stuff mainly. I don’t watch any professional porn, not my thing.

If certain individuals knew that I thought about them – that would be embarrassing.

I think about being watched (watched having sex, or watched masturbating or something) that’s pretty embarrassing to admit.

6. If someone wanted to seduce you, describe how they could best do so?

Invite me over for dinner and wear something cute and slightly see-through, without a bra. Play some Willie nelson, while we have some drinks on your patio. Wear some good perfume, and be genuine. Give me a task so I don’t feel weird while you cook, or at least have a counter I can sit at and watch you. Or, dinner can be simple, don’t even cook if you don’t wish.

Be in sexy mode and not business lady like your giving me an interview mode. Don’t be perfect and act like you don’t need a man, because if you don’t need anything, then you don’t need me, or to seduce me. At least show an indication that you need to get laid, if nothing else.

Sit close while we talk, and either kiss me or get close enough so I can kiss you without lunging. Do your nail scratchy thing on my back. If you want to fast track the seduction, start feeling my crotch, and consider me seduced.


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Unproven Sexual Truths We Just Know – and Proven Facts That Might Surprise

Some of these “truths” are backed by studies and experts, some of them I include sources for, some I didn’t include a source but you can look it up, and for some there is no supporting evidence – but we know they might be true.

There are things we all kind of know, or suspect, but we (society) would rather not pin down as scientific fact. Perhaps there have been a study or two done that hint at validity, and some of these “truths” seem like they would be fairly easy to verity, if we put our science to work on them.

I get it – and actually support it. But I find it interesting, how science pretends right along with all of us  (or suppresses and denies more like) – certain things that are obvious but uncomfortable.

There are also some interesting truths that science, or Google search data has concluded, that are contrary to popular belief.

Some “truths” may be trivial, but we’ve done studies on what affects asparagus has on the color of our pee – we’ve documented that dogs prefer to point north-south when they urinate and defecate.

There are probably things that are better left alone – to be polite, if for no other reason. Here’s a homework assignment, now that your mind is on it, see if you notice other aspects and correlations in life, that are right in front of us, but science or culture, is to shy to recognize.

  • Female orgasms, particularly vaginal orgasms, increase the probability of conception.

Most of the science on female orgasm, describes it as an evolutionary left-over – once necessary, and no longer relevant to survival and procreation. Certain animals like rabbits, and some that we evolved from, require an orgasm, or sexual arousal in order to release and egg to be fertilized — that is why their clitorises are located in their vaginas, and not outside the vagina, like with humans.

There are a couple theories that propose the human female orgasm, still plays a role in procreation.

        • One theory of how female orgasm may help with pregnancy achievement is called the “upsuck” theory. This hypothesis suggests that the contractions of the uterus help “suck up” the semen that gets deposited in the vagina, near the cervix. The orgasm then helps to move the sperm through the uterus and Fallopian tubes.
        • Another suggest that orgasms help women with mate-selection — men that can make her orgasm, a sign that he will be a better mate.


  • Larger penises are more likely to stimulate orgasm (thickness=clitoral orgasm,length=vaginal orgasm,curve up and rigidity – g-spot orgasm).

There has been a recent study that, sort of concluded that a longer penises is more likely to give a woman a vaginal orgasm. It actually only proved that women who like longer penises, have more vaginal orgasms.

That is all the evidence there is. I think may know the truth about this, I’ll just leave it there.

  • More women search online with complaints about their men being too big (and pain) than searches related to their men being too small.

  • Longer penises increase probability of conception.

Evidence is family size in Africa and common sense.

Penis size is only discussed in the context of sexual pleasure, and never in the the context that relates to why the penis even exists. Duh, it is tubular and exists to deposit semen – to get sperm to where they need to go. Obviously, a longer penis delivers the package closer – obviously, the sperm have an easier journey, with a higher probability of success.

  • Women get bored of their partners quicker than men.

  • 25% of porn searches by women are for rape & pain.

“Fully 25 percent of female searches for straight porn emphasize the pain and/or humiliation of the woman,” he writes, citing search terms inappropriate to reiterate here, but featuring words like “painful,” “extreme” and “brutal,” and often focused on non-consensual sex (depictions of which, he emphasizes, are not permitted on that site).”

  • Australians have the most threesomes of anywhere in the world.

  • 20% of people have had threesomes.

  • 10% of women and 18% of men want a threesome.

  • Dick size is as significant to attraction for women as height and broad shoulders – after 3.6 inches the significance lessons but still increases attraction.

There is a study on this, you can google it.

  • The average length of intercourse is not 30 minutes or an hour – actually between 2 and 7 minutes.

  • A lot more women than men, never get caught and never tell.

  • Women sexuality is more physical and less complicated than people think – men’s sexuality is less physical and more complicated than we think.

  • Guys lie up – women lie down.

  • Men scale down their masculinity for women – feminists tell us it’s toxic – heterosexual women are attracted to it.

  • Of woman who ended relationship over penis size – 7 percent ended it because their partner’s penis was “too large” and 20 per cent said it had been “too small”.

  • Sexless Marriage is common

On Google, a top complaint about a marriage is not having sex,” Stephens-Davidowitz writes. “There are 16 times more complaints about a spouse not wanting sex than about a married partner not being willing to talk,” he writes.

“Searches for ‘sexless marriage’ are three and a half times more common than ‘unhappy marriage’ and eight times more common than ‘loveless marriage.’ Even unmarried couples complain somewhat frequently about not having sex. Google searches for ‘sexless relationship’ are second only to searches for ‘abusive relationship.’”

Google data reveals your most perverted secrets

  • It might be men who are more often the cause of sexless relationships

These searches also show that men may be the ones holding back, as “there are twice as many complaints that a boyfriend won’t have sex than that a girlfriend won’t have sex.”

And Google searches suggest a surprising culprit for many of these sexless relationships. There are twice as many complaints that a boyfriend won’t have sex than that a girlfriend won’t have sex. By far, the number one search complaint about a boyfriend is “My boyfriend won’t have sex with me.”

Google data reveals your most perverted secrets